Why We Love Michelle Obama

First Lady Michelle Obama exemplifies class and grace in a modern yet traditional sense that has captivated the world. Known for her bold yet sophisticated fashion choices, Michelle Obama has become a inspiration for the younger generation. Having graced the cover of Vogue magazine and compared to Jackie O, Michelle Obama is the complete package of brains, beauty and wits. After only 52 days in the White House, Michelle Obama has set a wonderful example as our nations first African American First Lady.

Let's take a look at some of the stunning ensembles from our first lady:










Watch First Lady Michelle Obama appear on ABC's Good Morning America with co-host Robin Roberts on Friday, March 13, 2009.

The Get 'Em Girl's Guide To Unlocking The Power of Cuisine

I have always loved to cook so I wasn't surprised when a very special person brought me a new cookbook to add to my culinary literature. "Get'Em Girl's Guide to Unlocking the Power of Cuisine" is a sassy cookbook written by 3 city girls living in New York. Their goal was to write a book about the 3 things they love the most: "food, fun and men!" This delightfully witty cookbook has recipes ranging from "Bring him Back Chicken Soup" to "So Serious Suffocated Pork Chops."

Based on the theory that "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach," these ladies have managed to combine strategies and tips for dating with strategies and tips for cooking. This unique collaboration provides good humor, and easy to make recipe's that are great for the working woman.

If you are looking to spice up your meals and maybe even your dating life you should definitely check out the "Get'Em Girl's Guide to Unlocking the Power of Cuisine.

What to Buy???

With my birthday nearly 3 weeks away, the pressure is on for me to find the perfect gift to commensurate the celebration of seeing another year. While some may think this is a vain and materialistic ritual, I have always believed in the theory that if I don't treat myself to something nice why should anyone else? With that said, the hunt is on!

In the midst of a severe economic recession, I am looking for something nice but not over the top. Thus far, I am considering the following:





Unless, you are a true shoe lover at heart you will not know what to do with either of the two shoes reflected above. As a self proclaimed shoe connoisseur, I know both options would add a uniquely fashionable look to my wardrobe.

The Steve Madden brown booties are adorable. This shoe will not only look great with pants but will add a hint of sexy to a nice pencil skirt. The Betty J's as I call them, are my favorite. These shoes exhibit a balanced concoction of chaos and trendiness which Betsey Johnson is known for. A shoe of this type is worn occasionally and will make an unforgettable statement.

The comparison in price differs dramatically however, shouldn't every girl have at least 1 pair of Betsey J's,?

Stay tuned for the final decision.

Sunday Mornings

As a little girl Sunday mornings for my family always meant waking up to a homemade breakfast and then going to church. It was a routine that was expected and one that surprisingly I have held fast to despite my declaration of independence from my parents. My new Sunday routine includes attending morning service and then picking up breakfast or paying Starbucks a visit, with one of my girlfriends. I then call my bff and recap the sermon for him since he is unable to make it to church on Sundays.

Well this Sunday's service really hit the spot for me. Quite often those of us who strive to continuously progress sometimes miss out on enjoying our achievements and blessings. We immediately become distracted with our newest goal or materialistic possession to obsess about. Unfortunately, I must admit that sometimes I am guilty of letting my ambitions or goals overshadow my current achievements and blessings. Sometimes I forget to just sit back and be happy with where the Lord has brought me. Nonetheless, when my pastor spoke on this subject, I felt the need to share what the Lord had put on his heart. The following is an except that was shared with us from my Pastors upcoming book.

"For so many, life is filled with frustration and drama stemming from a mindset which focuses on the happiness and blessings that hopefully are waiting for us in the future. We spend out lives saying, "when I get another job I'll finally be happy or when I get married everything will be perfect. We even believe that if I get broke-off financially all of our problems will go away. The truth is we have fallen into Satan's biggest trap. It is simply to keep the Christian so preoccupied with chasing tomorrow's happiness that they never stop to enjoy the trip. You see the moment we realize that a good portion of our lives will be invested "pressing toward the mark" and if all we can be happy about is the "mark" season we'll be miserable during the (often long) process of "pressing." This morning we've got to move past Satan's trap and realize that Christ died for our peace and wants us to embrace, enjoy, reverence, take hold of, have a blast in, smell the roses in every second God gives us. We will no longer take today for granted but sap the life out of every moment."

I hope this has touched you as much as it has touched me. Life is short, too short to spend it worrying about tomorrow when we can be enjoying today.

What We Wish They Knew

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if men knew…….

The don’t have to impress us, if we like them all they have to do is be themselves, treat us right and that will make us glow like a morning star.

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if men knew…….

All women really want is love, attention and a feeling of security.

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if men knew…….

Women really don't want to play games but sometimes games are the only known defense mechanism that will get the male species to act right.

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if men knew…….

No woman wants to be a booty call or a jump off ever!

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if men knew…….

Women never want to pressure a man to move to the next step but men often get comfortable and begin to drag their feet which makes women begin to inadvertently pressure them.

It is unfortunate how convoluted the lines of communication are between men and woman. Ladies, lets roll up our sleeves and at least try to help men understand us. If you have a significant other let your man know in the most simplest way, 1 thing that he does which really makes you happy. Then, tell him one thing you wish he knew.

Remember…..if we never tell them we cannot blame them.

Dedication to Z

For those of you who know me personally, you know that I am a dog lover by nature. On Friday, February 20, 2009, my dog of 11 years passed away. If you have never had a pet before you cannot begin to imagine the insurmountable feeling of loss that over takes you when you have lost your pet, which at some point became your buddy. Z, was 77 years old and in her time she had such an impact on myself and my family. At times I kept my distance from her but I always cared about her well being. I remember the day my brother fed Z Ramen noodles and she became very sick. She looked as if she she wouldn't make it and I swore that if she did not I would make my brother pay for his childish and ridiculous prank. Fortunately, she recovered and was fine, but that moment defined just how much she meant to me.

It is amazing how animals can take a human place in ones heart. Dogs especially have the unique ability to take on interesting personalities which give them character and makes you grow to love them. To some a pet becomes your friend, your companion or maybe just your responsibility. To me, Z was my buddy. I never had to say much to her, but her puppy dog eyes followed and watched everything I did.

I will miss her always.

RIP Z

Diva Do’s and Diva Don’ts

First let me start by saying when I use the word diva I use it in the context of a female who is taking care of business and trying to be successful in all areas of her life while looking good too. In no way am I referring to the over the top cell phone throwing, tantrum having, gold digging, hoodrat looking female, nor am I referring to the Diva, defined by Beyonce as a hustler. I am simply referring to a classy independent woman doing big things in a big way while still being able to be cute at all times. If that brief description describes you then welcome to our sister circle. If the description doesn’t describe you, maybe you should consider making the necessary adjustments. If your uncertain which group you belong to read the do’s and don’t’s listed below and if your guilty of 3 or more don’ts you might want to change your life!
1. A diva never personifies the “Felicia” character and hates on the next chick just because your old flame has moved on and is dating someone new. True divas hate in private and quickly, quickly get over it.
2. A diva is never dressed flawlessly from head to toe with expensive clothes, nice shoes and hot car yet her home and children look a hot mess. A diva’s style is consistant in all aspects of her life. If you cannot afford this lifestyle then take baby steps. I drove a hoopty for a time but rest assured with each penny I made I prioritized my apartment to be a place I could call home, then I upgraded from the hoopty.
3. A diva never chooses between making an expensive purchase vs. paying her bills. Diva’s live by affordable means and we pay our bills first and shop later.
4. A diva has a savings account that will hold her over for at least 1 year should she come upon troublesome times. I personally will continue to work on this one. No more needs to be said.
5. A diva is never caught cursing absurdly in an unseemly matter or acting raunchy in public. A diva is always a lady in public and her freaky side is only seen in private.
6. A diva is up to date on the events going on in the world and she can have an intelligent conversation with everyone from Hakeem the round the way player to Paul Wiess the corporate honcho.
7. This one is especially important! A diva is not a gold digger. I repeat a diva is not a gold digger. She is independent and has her own money. She does not exchange her body and time for money, she does not date drug dealers, and she does not trap men with pregnancies. A diva depends on NO man, she’ll work 2 jobs and do overtime before selling out.
8. A diva does not tolerate domestic violence just to be with a man. Ladies you cannot be a diva by day and getting smacked down at night. It doesn’t work that way. No man has the right to inflict pain on you by means of physical, emotional or verbal abuse. If this pertains to you I strongly urge you to call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit the website at http://www.ndvh.org/. Stand up don’t get shaken down!
9. A diva is never caught in public with unshaved legs or unshaved armpits. If you wear a skirt shave or wax those legs please! I personally believe that underam hair is never acceptable ANY time of the year but if you disagree at least shave your underarms in the summer…please.
10. Last but not least….a diva has good credit and if not she is taking the necessary steps to correct it. You cannot be independent if you always need a co-signer. Mistakes happen I agree, but be knowledgeable of your credit rating and if your credit is flawed its better to work on it rather than just ignore it.

There you have it folks my diva do’s and don’t for this month. Tally up your score to see where your stand.
Guilty of 0 don’ts – High five to you, you’re a true diva!!!
Guilty of 1-3 don’ts- You’ve obtained diva status because your working on improving your life everyday
Guilty of 4-6 don’ts- I hope this is an eye opener for you and you use this as motivation to make a positive change.
Guily of 5-6 don’ts- Think you should grow up and be responsible first and worry about being a diva later.