My Theory

"Forget what you heard, recognize what you see. I know you heard the here's the real me." XoXo

Wednesday, March 24, 2010


So today I am one year older and all the wiser. Within the first 30 minutes of being 32 I made a major decision which will make my life all more better. I'm kissing 31 goodbye and I looking 32 straight in the face grinning because I KNOW what's in store for me. Motto for 32 is; "To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did"

Happy Birthday ME!!!!

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Goodbye old.......Hello new!!!!

They say when one door closes another one opens. I've closed the door many times before but have always left it partially unlocked. I've closed the door many times yet still looked through the peep hole. This time its different. There are no locks this time, there are no peep holes and the door isn't closed. This time the door is shut.

As a new door opens I'm excited about the possibilities. The mystery of the unknown. The chance to bask in the perfection before the flaws are revealed. The newness of it all scared me at first but when you shut one door, you never know what door you may have indirectly opened.

Goodbye old......hello new!!!!!!

Monday, March 15, 2010

So Confused

In just 9 more days, I will be one year older. Its scary because 1. in no way do I feel like I aged past 26 and 2. I feel more confused than I ever felt before. Things that once made sense no longer do, and things that should make sense still does not make sense. I'm not really sure if its the pressure of getting older or the fact that its really time for me to buckle down and decide exactly what I want in this world but there is definitely pressure. I have been so confused I couldn't even decide on my own birthday wish list and I ALWAYS know what I want when birthdays or holidays come around. My list as of now only includes (2) books by Joel Osteen and a Louis Vuitton bag that I KNOW I should not even be looking at right now.

This phase that I am going through is extremely frustrating and nerve wrecking. I feel as though I am walking around with a big question mark in the middle of my forehead and there are no answers in sight. Nonetheless, I find solace in the fact that I KNOW things will eventually start to make sense. What I don't know now I will know at the right time and all I can do is pray for guidance and wisdom in the interim.

The one thing I know for certain is that I will be in Vegas in 11 days and I need that question on my forehead gone! least for the trip =)

Love and Blessings

What We Don't Understand

I found this quote I really liked it thought I would shared.

"We do not understand:
Joy.....until we face sorrow
Faith.....until it is tested
Peace....until faced with conflict
Trust....until we are betrayed
Love...until it is lost
Hope...until confronted with doubts"


Saturday, March 13, 2010

Why Did I Get Married Too?

How Did I Get Married Too hits theatres on April 2, 2010. I am so excited because I thought the first How did I Get Married was excellent! The movie was not only hilarious and realistic but it was real. It showed some of the real challenges people go through when they are married such as; the baby momma drama that occurs when there are children outside of the marriage, the impact a death can have on a marriage, and the reality of what can happen when you marry the wrong man.

Why Did I Get Married Too, depicts the lives of four couples who go on a trip and attempt to reevaluate their marriages. Tyler Perry usually is pretty good when it comes to his movies, so I am confident Why Did I Get Married Too, will be hit.

If you haven't seen the 1st Why Did I Get Married then hurry up and check it out before April 2nd.

Think I Might Rock This

I went to the bookstore the other day and after studying the glossy pages cover to cover of fashion magazines such as Bazaar, Nylon, Vogue and Instyle, I noticed the trend of socks and sandals are really making a come back. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought this style was cute, but after looking at it carefully, the sandal and sock look can be sophisticated, trendy and very sexy if pulled off correctly. I will probably have to run through a host of mini fashions show in my bedroom before I get it right but this is definitely a look I am going for. Its bold, sexy and screams confidence all at the same time! Check it out.

What do you think?


It's not too often I get personal with you guys but every now and again I provide a sneak peak into my REAL life. I'll start by saying these past few months have shown me there is nothing like family. Although you may not always get along, your family will always be there for you. They will hold you up when you feel weak, put you back together when someone breaks you apart, they will tell you, you are great when you feel you are at your worst and they will be there for you when everyone you THOUGHT would be gone. If I haven't described your family I pray that in some way you can receive the same love and support I've just described.

My family has given me so much strength and support I couldn't fathom life without them. I had a very strained relationship with my father for many years and one day I finally decided to let go of my animosity and accept him as he is. Surprisingly enough, we are finally to the point where we are cool. We talk, laugh and reminisce and I am continuously comforted and relieved we repaired our relationship. My mother will go from nagging me to high fiving me in a blink of an eye. She will be my mother one second and my girlfriend the next effortlessly. My sister lives pretty far away but through text messaging and facebook we speak so frequently throughout the day you would think she lived up the block. And as for my brother, well although he is 6yrs younger than me, he has declared himself my "big" brother and he does the best job making sure I am always ok.

I can write all day about the importance of family and a how irreplaceable they are but I think you guys get the point. Embrace, love, respect and appreciate your family because you only get one.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Not Everyone is Getting Divorced!!!

With divorce rates currently at a whopping 50% I am honored to congratulate my sister on her 9Th wedding anniversary! As the world continues to become more liberated in every aspect, marriage theses days have becoming increasingly more challenging. Woman now have the mindset they can take care of themselves and men continue to struggle with fidelity as we now live in a over sexual society. Both factors have played a contributing role in divorce rates.

When I look at my married friends and my sister I look at them with admiration but I am also aware that marriage is a "forever" commitment and it takes a lot of work. My sister have been a great role model for me and her marriage inspires me to not get too frustrated with these knuckle heads out here. Today I congratulate my big sis on being happily married for 9 years, and I pray for many more happy years in her marriage.

Happy Marryversary Sister!!!!!

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

The Day We Lost A Hip Hop Legend

Thirteen years ago today, Hip Hop lost a legend. The Brooklyn girl in me could never let this day go unnoticed without mentioning the late great B-I-G. The musical contributions Biggie made to hip hop is not only uniquely noteworthy but it is also unforgettable. He rapped about fame and fortune while revealing the harsh reality of his life before the flashy lights. A life in which trouble, hard times and a few bad decisions followed him. But a life that opted him the amazing opportunity to become what many will refer to as one of the greatest rappers of all times.

Biggie had a realness that commanded respect and a swag that a dude like him could normally not be able to own. Biggie showed the world that even big dudes can rock a shinny suit and dance like puffy, and he had the likes of Faith Evans and Lil Kim, madly in love with him. More importantly, Biggie did something no rapper before him has ever done... he gave Brooklyn a sense of pride they never had before. This pride flows strong in Brooklyn its a pride that boldly says greatness can come right from BK! It was this same sense of pride that made Brooklyn welcome and embrace Jay Z and if you disagree with what I'm saying ask ANY New Yorker, who's the greatest rapper ever? I assure you their response will include BOTH Biggie and Jay Z.

Today we celebrate Biggie's life and the many contributions he made to Hip Hop. Whether your from New York, Maryland, California, Texas or Ohio, the world will never have another Biggie. No song will ever get me as amped as I get when a Biggie song comes on and no one will ever say Brooklyn and not think of the Legendary Greatest......Biggie Smalls.

R.I.P Christoper Wallace

"Remember Rappin' Duke, duh-ha, duh-ha / You never thought that hip hop would take it this far / Now I'm in the limelight 'cause I rhyme tight"- Biggie Smalls

Feel free to let me know your thoughts and your favorite Biggie song? Mine was One More Chance.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010


-Am I the only one who has a hard time making decisions and standing by them. That is something that I really need to work on.

-When one door closes another one will open, even if I was the one who closed the door.

-Are married people more happier than single people because I am starting to think if done correctly single life could really be fun.

-I've been wondering a lot if my best friend is really only my best friend... I don't know.

-If I started my own magazine could I make it, I sure do want to.

-I hate emotions, they are so temporary. Tomorrow you won't even remember what you felt today go figure.

-My life is coming together, I really think this move is the way to go.

-Lost is a good show I don't know why more people don't watch it.

-I'm not sure why red lipstick is making a come back but for certain occasions it can really make a hot outfit FIRE!!!

-Is it a bit much to celebrate my birthday for 2 weeks? I was thinking 2 dinner parties + the Vegas trip, I know that's over kill but hey you only live once.

-Sometimes you have to talk YOURSELF through things, stop thinking so much and talk yourself to a solution.

-The best quote I heard all week is "Think about what your thinking about"

-Question I've been pondering alot on lately, do you give the good guy a chance just because he's a good guy or do you go with your gut and stick to what you like???

That's it for now guys. Should be adding a few interesting blogs tonight...stay tuned.

Monday, March 1, 2010

"We In the Middle Of Whole Foods"

I'm not sure where it came from but it seems as though I have recently developed an addiction to Whole Foods. While I am a pretty healthy eater, I never thought I was one to be caught up in the "organic food epidemic", yet, I often find myself in stores like Whole Foods (WF) and Trader Joe's spending far more money than I should. Trader Joe's, is where I go when the budget doesn't allow for Whole Foods prices, but when the budget is right I can spend hours in Whole Foods. I don't really buy anything big but here is what I brought today:

-Dried Apricots (I love, love, love them)
-Mini Pita breads
-a $10.00 fruit cup for my protein shakes (I know that's pricey but their fruit is delish and it has Mango's)
-large bottle of Voss (I needed a new water bottle for the gym)
-Kettle Corn Gourmet popcorn (its healthy!)
-a bag of Mandarins (I've eaten 3 in one day so you know they are good)
-3 Granny Smith Apples (I'm going to start make my own juice since I only drink water right now)
-Incense (surprised WF sold it)
-sparking water

Those few items, caused me a pretty penny but it was well worth it. More than anything I believe people pay for the quality of food and the experience at Whole Foods. The food always is fresh, they have the best samples to try and the store itself takes organic and healthy eating to a whole new level. When I lived in New York I was familiar with Whole Food's but I never really thought to shop there. Somewhere between Andre 3000 mentioning it in the "You" remix and new locations popping up sporadically, Whole Foods has proven itself to be the Nordstroms of the organic food industry.

The Whole Foods in New York surpasses any other Whole Foods that I have ever been too. It has about 34 registers and a pretty structured checkout system to ensure everyone is served as quickly as possible. While I didn't see the peanut butter machine in the Maryland WF's I will say that New York's WF has a peanut butter machine that actually allows you to grind your choice in peanuts into a whipped butter right before your eyes. I brought a tube and it was very good.

If you are looking to start eating healthier or if you never been to WF's I definitely suggest you try it at least once. It is a little more pricier than Trader Joe's but Whole Foods has something for everyone so go see what they have for you. Just be sure to bring your wallet.