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"Forget what you heard, recognize what you see. I know you heard the here's the real me." XoXo

Monday, October 26, 2009

~~ARe You A Bitter Blogger?~~

I have been debating whether I should write this or not but hell, its my blog I write what I want. First let me start by saying. I love blogging and I love reading other peoples blog. Sometimes I get so caught up in reading other blogs that it causes me to slack off on my own but heres my issue. I have read a variety of blogs on several different subjects such as shopping, fashion, relationships, gossip, pole dancing, you name it I have read it. What makes blogging so great is that it is the
1st amendment in its truest form. Bloggers really have the freedom to write whatever they want. The problem is that while I have read some blogs that have been really entertaining, uplifting and even educational at times, I have also read blogs that are filled with nothing but bitterness and negativity. Of course I don't have to read them if I don't like the content but I'm more so concerned with the thought process behind someone who has nothing good to say and why they feel the need to share their poison. The resentment towards men toward woman heck sometimes their resentment toward all happiness should be kept for their own private diary. It might not be my place to say it but I just think that although we have the freedom to write whatever we want, blogland is no place for other peoples poisonous baggage.

Maybe I am naive but I would like to think that when we write these blogs its for positive reasons, not to put certain people down, or tell some people off or brag about how we are the hottest thing since slice bread. I personally find that annoying and to be quite honest a pathetic attempt for attention.

Fortunatley, I have not come across too many bitter blogs but for the ones I have crossed, I'm really not interested in following your negativity. To everyone else, lets continue to enjoy this blog thing and and be wise enough know the difference between trash and good writing.

~~Happy Blogging Folks~~

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Why so Ghetto????

First there was Oprah, then Tyra, now Wendy Williams and the newest addition is the Monique Show. Now I definitely support my sisters out there trying to do their thing, but how many of the same shows do we need? Oprah of course is in a class by herself and Tyra, not much to say about her show; but, Wendy Williams and the Monique Show seem to be identical to me, almost repetitive. Monique may not center her show around gossip but at the end of the day both shows are the same. The only difference between Monique's and Wendy's show is that Monique screams the ENTIRE time. She yells at the top of her lungs in excitement over one thing or another, I just don't get it.

Lately, it seems as though "keeping it real" has been misconstrued to mean "be ghetto as hell." Why must we straighten our wigs on TV, and scream to the top of our lungs and then justify the behavior as "keeping it real." The last time I watched the Monique show she was barefoot with a foot brace on. Are you kidding me. who hosts a show barefoot?

I don't know folks, I'm definitely not trying to be judgmental but sometimes I really get tired of black people living up to the title of ghetto.

Let me know your thoughts.

Thursday, October 8, 2009

My Mr. Big

I'm sure you are all familiar with SATC's Mr Big. He was Carrie's true love, the guy that sent her on a emotional rollercoater with his non-committal issues yet could never muster the nerve to make a clean break from her. Big ran havoc on Carrie's life, he even left her at the alter, but after everything was said and done, he finally overcame his commitment issues and married her. I'm sure at times we all shook our head at Carrie in disapproval wondering why she couldn't just let Big go and move on. The truth is, although they both had serious relationships with other people they always came back to each other. There was no such thing as a clean break with them.

I never shared this with anyone so Blogland feel special. I have my own Mr. Big and when I first saw SATC the movie it was like watching my personal life on the big screen. Watching my own mistakes, watching my heart go on an emotional roller coaster, watching my girls/family shake their head and tell me that the one dude I can't shake is a jerk.

To be honest it was so close to watching my life I was relieved when Carrie and Big finally got married. I was relieved that in the end it paid off and I used that as my hope that my situation will eventually pay off. I wonder if there ever is a happy ending or just more emotional roller coasters.

People always offer advice even when their opinion isn't requested, well this blog isn't seeking advice. I actually don't care what anyone thinks I should do. This blog is about my life, how I feel and what I'm going through. If any of you have been here before, then you know this is one of the worst feelings ever.

I've seen people marry their "safe choice" because they thought the safe person could make them happy. I've seen the look of "I settled" and all I know is that no matter how naive it may sound, I want to end up with the love of my life. The man who makes my heart skip a beat and treats me the way I deserve to be treated. Maybe I have already met this man maybe he's on his way, what I do know is Big or no Big, without risks there is no reward!!!

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

The Balancing Game

Ok, so the name of the game I am playing now is called the balancing game. I recently picked up a new part time job for the holidays and its only been 1 week and my body is not cooperating. To confirm what I already knew, I saw my work crush as I was leaving the office yesterday and he said to me "wow you look tired." Great,..... just the thing you want to hear from your crush. To his defense tired was putting it nicely, how about worn out.

After missing the gym for 3 days I can't wait until I can muster up enough energy to go back. Some way some how I am going to work my full time, work my part time, maintain my 3 day gym routine, continue my blog, mentor my little sis, continue to head my book club and have time for friends all while still maintaining my sanity.

It will be interesting to see how I manage all this but like I said, the name of the game is BALANCE. Wish me rest!!!